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The Abyss:  In the hushed stillness of the night, when the world slumbers and the mind wanders, a disquieting question often surfaces, echoing through the corridors of our souls: "Is this all there is?" The question itself is a paradox, a whisper from the depths of our being that yearns for something more, something beyond the mundane routines and fleeting pleasures of everyday life. It's a yearning for authenticity, for purpose, for a life that resonates with the deepest cho

A Journey to Authenticity Generational trauma, an often-unseen spectre, weaves its tendrils through the fabric of our lives, influencing our thoughts, behaviours, and relationships in ways we might not fully understand. These echoes of past pain shape our present reality, creating cycles that can seem impossible to break. In this exploration, we delve deeply into how these echoes influence our parenting, the distortions they create in our perceptions, and most importantly, ho

How it starts You know how sometimes, the past just won't behave itself? Something small, a word, a scent, and suddenly you're swept up in a whirlwind of feelings that have nothing to do with the present moment. Fear, anger, a sadness that cuts deep...  It can be utterly bewildering, leaving you feeling shaken and powerless. If this sounds familiar, well, let's just say you're not alone in this. That relentless way old hurts can resurface like that – it's called an emotional

Ah, remember the days when the world was a canvas, brimming with colours yet to be chosen, tunes yet to be sung, and stories yet to be told? We were the intrepid explorers of our back gardens, the fearless artists of the living room floor, armed with nothing but our imaginations. It was a time when creativity wasn’t just an activity; it was our way of being, a language we spoke fluently, without ever having been taught. But somewhere along the line, the vibrant hues of our i

In the quiet recesses of our minds, where shadows dance and doubts linger, there lies a landscape ripe for exploration, like embarking on a quest for authenticity. This journey commences not with a physical step, but with a thought—a toxic thought that has set roots deeper than the oldest trees. It's a quest we embark upon, aiming to untangle the underbrush of our consciousness, fuelled by the hope of discovering the clear skies of our true selves beyond the dense foliage. Fo

As the world starts to emerge from a pandemic it could seem like life is becoming more and more hectic. It feels as if we overload ourselves with more and more tasks to do, more and more things we have to accomplish. Do you ever go to bed, listing the things in your head that you couldn’t finish or accomplish during the day?“Where did the day go?” Enough of these days and I can ask myself the same questions about weeks, months, or even years! When these thoughts come up I tr

What do I mean by this? Well, you wouldn’t wait till your arm was dropping off before you went to the ER. The same should go for your mental health. Don’t wait till you are in the middle of a meltdown before you decide to seek professional help and look for a therapist. Psychotherapy is just like having a medical check-up it will help the illness from spreading or becoming life-threatening. By getting good therapy and creating a relationship with a therapist before everything

Anxiety can raise its ugly head in many forms! It can be so bad that we need professional help to deal with the pain and trauma that can actually stop us from functioning properly. Anxiety is something that everybody experiences at one time or another, but it can be on many different levels. From being anxious about walking into a room of people to it being so debilitating than getting out of bed for fear of something happening to you can be your everyday battle. One powerfu

Are you spending more time on your device than with your partner? We all do it, sit starring at the screen in front of us, scrolling endlessly, not looking up for hours. We need to ask ourselves some questions, “ Am I spending more time with my electronic device than I am with my partner or spouse?” Or “Am I spending more time in the virtual world than the real one and is my relationship suffering because of it?” You won’t be alone if the answer is yes to these questions. A

When we believe in ourselves, It’s a good start to helping us achieve our goals and dreams and also helps towards our mental wellbeing. But there is a flip side to this, a lack of belief in ourselves means we are less likely to push ourselves to achieve our goals or to try and make things better for ourselves. If we expect we are going to fail at something we are actually more likely to do just that. What we need to try and realise is, that by believing in ourselves it will

Most of us want self-confidence because we want to feel good about ourselves. But self-confidence is also important for other things. The higher our self-confidence, the higher our motivation to act. Self-confidence is also a good thing as if we lack in it we are more likely to fail at the task we have set for ourselves. One of the most important aspects of self-confidence is self-worth. We are all worthy. Some of us however can feel worthless. Maybe we feel like we're dis

Today we are going to ask the question “Is it time for me to seek help, and see a therapist?” The chances are if you are asking yourself that question then the answer is “Yes”. Psychotherapy, talking therapy, counseling, it doesn’t matter what you call it, is there to help you when you are struggling with your mental health. Life throws us many challenges and curveballs and it takes a strong person to say “I can’t do this on my own!” Therapy can help improve symptoms of many

Depression and Fitness One of the main aspects to depression that we struggle with is its inability to allow us to deal with our feelings – I am sure I am not alone in having heard others lecture, “think about what is making you depressed and change it” – a well-intentioned but frankly laughable concept. As if a magic wand has now been curtly swished and Cinderella has now been instantaneously transformed from her rags to a sparkly blue ball gown. No, what I am talking about