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Play and creativity aren’t childish luxuries to grow out of — they’re where we reconnect with the parts of ourselves that survival mode shut down. For anyone carrying trauma or chronic stress, letting the inner child express again can be quietly profound. Here’s why play heals. Ah, remember the days when the world was a canvas, brimming with colours yet to be chosen, tunes yet to be sung, and stories yet to be told? We were the intrepid explorers of our back gardens, the fear

On Reactions, Decisions, and the Long Walk Back to Yourself I've been deeply reflecting on what our human journey actually looks like. I mean really looks like—not the cleaned-up version we present to the world, nor the narrative arc we've rehearsed enough times that we've started to believe it ourselves. What would it look like if I could bring together my child self, my teenage self, and my adult self? Not in a therapeutic circle with cushions and a bowl of grapes, but real

Living a lie rarely means deliberate deception — more often it’s the slow accumulation of a life built around who you were supposed to be, until you can barely find who you are. Coming home to yourself is frightening and freeing in equal measure. Here’s what that path can look like. The Abyss: In the hushed stillness of the night, when the world slumbers and the mind wanders, a disquieting question often surfaces, echoing through the corridors of our souls: "Is this all ther

Rediscovering yourself after years in survival mode is less about becoming someone new and more about clearing away what was never really you — the adaptations, the inherited fears, the roles you took on to stay safe. Here’s how that journey beyond the shadows of the past unfolds. A Journey to Authenticity Generational trauma, an often-unseen spectre, weaves its tendrils through the fabric of our lives, influencing our thoughts, behaviours, and relationships in ways we might

An emotional flashback is when something small in the present — a tone of voice, a look, a smell — suddenly drops you into the feeling of an old wound, with no clear memory attached. You’re not overreacting; your nervous system is reliving, not remembering. Here’s how to recognise emotional flashbacks and find your way back to the present. How it starts You know how sometimes, the past just won't behave itself? Something small, a word, a scent, and suddenly you're swept up in

Toxic thoughts — the relentless, self-attacking, worst-case loops — aren’t a character flaw; they’re often trauma and anxiety speaking in the only language they know. You can’t simply think your way out, but you can change your relationship to them. Here’s a therapist’s take. In the quiet recesses of our minds, where shadows dance and doubts linger, there lies a landscape ripe for exploration, like embarking on a quest for authenticity. This journey commences not with a physi

As the world starts to emerge from a pandemic it could seem like life is becoming more and more hectic. It feels as if we overload ourselves with more and more tasks to do, more and more things we have to accomplish. Do you ever go to bed, listing the things in your head that you couldn’t finish or accomplish during the day?“Where did the day go?” Enough of these days and I can ask myself the same questions about weeks, months, or even years! When these thoughts come up I tr

Most people wait until they’re in crisis to seek help — but therapy works best when it isn’t a last resort. Reaching out before you’re forced to isn’t weakness or self-indulgence; it’s the same wisdom as servicing a car before it breaks down. Here’s why earlier is easier. What do I mean by this? Well, you wouldn’t wait till your arm was dropping off before you went to the ER. The same should go for your mental health. Don’t wait till you are in the middle of a meltdown before

Anxiety can raise its ugly head in many forms! It can be so bad that we need professional help to deal with the pain and trauma that can actually stop us from functioning properly. Anxiety is something that everybody experiences at one time or another, but it can be on many different levels. From being anxious about walking into a room of people to it being so debilitating than getting out of bed for fear of something happening to you can be your everyday battle. One powerfu

Are you spending more time on your device than with your partner? We all do it, sit starring at the screen in front of us, scrolling endlessly, not looking up for hours. We need to ask ourselves some questions, “ Am I spending more time with my electronic device than I am with my partner or spouse?” Or “Am I spending more time in the virtual world than the real one and is my relationship suffering because of it?” You won’t be alone if the answer is yes to these questions. A

When we believe in ourselves, It’s a good start to helping us achieve our goals and dreams and also helps towards our mental wellbeing. But there is a flip side to this, a lack of belief in ourselves means we are less likely to push ourselves to achieve our goals or to try and make things better for ourselves. If we expect we are going to fail at something we are actually more likely to do just that. What we need to try and realise is, that by believing in ourselves it will

Most of us want self-confidence because we want to feel good about ourselves. But self-confidence is also important for other things. The higher our self-confidence, the higher our motivation to act. Self-confidence is also a good thing as if we lack in it we are more likely to fail at the task we have set for ourselves. One of the most important aspects of self-confidence is self-worth. We are all worthy. Some of us however can feel worthless. Maybe we feel like we're dis

There’s no threshold of suffering you have to reach before therapy is ‘allowed’. If something keeps pulling at you — a pattern you can’t shift, a weight that won’t lift, a sense of not being quite yourself — that’s reason enough to talk to someone. Here’s how to tell whether therapy might help, and what taking the first step involves. Today we are going to ask the question “Is it time for me to seek help, and see a therapist?” The chances are if you are asking yourself that q

Movement is one of the most evidence-backed things that helps low mood — but ‘just exercise’ is useless advice when getting out of bed feels impossible. The relationship between depression and fitness is real, and it works best when it’s gentle, not punishing. Here’s how to think about it. Depression and Fitness One of the main aspects to depression that we struggle with is its inability to allow us to deal with our feelings – I am sure I am not alone in having heard others l