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Healing from past experiences, especially those that have caused emotional pain or trauma, is a journey that requires patience, understanding, and practical steps. Trauma can affect every aspect of life, from relationships to self-esteem, and addressing it is essential for living a fulfilling and balanced life. This guide will walk you through effective steps to begin your trauma recovery process and regain control over your emotional well-being. Understanding Trauma Recovery

Emotional healing is a journey that many embark on to find peace and balance after experiencing pain, loss, or trauma. One of the most powerful tools in this process is acceptance. Acceptance allows us to face our emotions honestly and without resistance, which can lead to profound healing and growth. This article explores the role of acceptance in emotional healing, offering practical insights and guidance to help you embrace this transformative approach. The Importance of A

When we think about childhood wounds, physical or overt abuse often comes to mind first. Yet, there is a quieter, less visible form of harm that can shape our inner world just as deeply. It’s called emotional neglect. It’s not about what was done to you, but what was not done. The absence of emotional attunement, validation, and support during childhood can leave lasting imprints on your nervous system and relationships. If you’ve ever felt unseen, unheard, or emotionally di

As the festive season sneaks up on us—like a poorly planned office Secret Santa—I find myself reflecting on the many layers of emotions this time of year stirs up. For some, it’s a sparkly beacon of joy and connection; for others, it’s more like a tangled string of Christmas lights: triggering, messy, and liable to make you mutter things unfit for polite company. Let’s face it, Christmas has a way of amplifying everything—the good, the bad, and the utterly absurd. Allow me to

childhood Hey everyone, Today, we're delving into a journey that many of us know all too well: finding "you" after childhood trauma. It's about rediscovering our true selves after being masked by the experiences of our past. Imagine being a child again, but in a world overshadowed by trauma. This trauma starts to erode the very core of who we are, leading us to adopt an identity shaped not by choice, but by circumstance. It's like wearing a mask so long that you forget your o

Trauma Recovery: A Guide to Emotional Healing In the destructive path of trauma, navigating the storm of emotions that results can often feel like totally  overwhelming.  This blog is dedicated to those of us who are walking this challenging landscape every day, every moment. As a Psychotherapist with a personal history of overcoming huge adversity and challenge, I offer insights and strategies drawn from both professional expertise and my own journey of healing.  This blog d

As you embark on the journey of rediscovering your authentic self after enduring childhood trauma, imagine traversing a serene, yet complex forest. This forest symbolizes the intricate, sometimes challenging, path of healing and self-discovery. Each turn in the forest mirrors the twists and turns of your journey, leading you towards a place of self-realization and light. Echoes of a Troubled Past Consider the story of a person who likened their childhood trauma to carrying an

In the intricate dance of life, where each step and misstep tells a story, the early rhythms set in childhood echo long into the corridors of adulthood. Picture a child, whose youthful world was painted in the unpredictable shades of a parent's moods, where sharp words often hung heavy in the air like a lingering fog. This story isn't about the scars seen by the eye, but about those that etch themselves into the soul, unseen yet deeply felt. As they step out into the grand st

Healing from emotional abuse is an arduous process, mainly because there are so many differing effects in so many areas – a million moving parts to account for. As hard as it is to de-code however, it is vital to address if you find yourself facing that unresolved trauma on a daily-basis – it can integrate into your habits, grow into your social patterns, and fundamentally shift the outlook you have on life. If you’re at the stage where you’re starting to question things: wo

Neglect may be your care giver (a term used very ironically) entirely ignoring your existence, not even refusing to care for you, just simply failing to fulfil your needs without a second thought. For instance in my last few month living with my supposed care giver, I had to sneakily throw away or force myself to eat the rarely packed school lunches for months. Every element was past its best: mouldy bread, greying ham, and butter that tasted like no flavour I could ever desc

Has your child had an experience that was either emotionally or physically traumatic? Is this still causing them stress, anxiety, and worrying you enough to seek help. Maybe you have decided to approach a therapist and ask for help, but what can they do that you can’t. Your child may need a form of therapy called Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. This sounds like a real mouthful right? But don’t worry it’s a very useful tool in dealing with certain types of trauma

Trauma and Anger Thankfully there has been a lot more research and general awareness about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in recent years. The once stereotyped image of a shaking war-veteran has been adjusted and broadened to people who suffer from generally suffer from stress related to traumatic experiences from the past. We can experience a whole range of different emotions after undergoing something traumatic – which is completely understandable. Sometimes those feelings

It doesn’t take too long after scrolling your way through Instagram to find a smug and characteristically vacuous quote about forgiveness. Usually, it will be thoughtfully stamped (using either Comic Sans or Edwardian Script, for an artistic flair, of course) across an archetypical dreamy background of some mysterious and edited mountain range. Ah… here we go… recognise this? Behold, a quintessential piece of 21st century passive toxicity. However, we cannot hold social medi