Talk to a therapist before you have no choice.
What do I mean by this? Well, you wouldn’t wait till your arm was dropping off before you went to the ER. The same should go for your mental health. Don’t wait till you are in the middle of a meltdown before you decide to seek professional help and look for a therapist.
Psychotherapy is just like having a medical check-up it will help the illness from spreading or becoming life-threatening.
By getting good therapy and creating a relationship with a therapist before everything hits the fan, you take your emotional pulse and allow yourself to create a trusting therapeutic relationship, so that when something unexpected shows up you have a safe haven in which to process it.
Of course, it’s easy to let things get on top of you or even to the point where they are overwhelming. What you will come to realise when you start therapy is that your session is a safe place to unload your problems, share what is worrying you, and not be judged for doing so.
By creating an open, safe relationship with a therapist before a meltdown, you ensure, as best as you can of course, that someone you already trust will be there for you when you need them.
Finding the right therapist for you is also important. You have to learn to trust them and when I say learn it may not be something that happens straight away.
Only you know your journey and what’s happened to you. It may be that a person or people, through their actions, have caused you to become cautious about who you trust and who you feel comfortable speaking to.
This is all ok and perfectly natural. I understand all of the above and would never push or rush you into talking about things you don’t want to.
The more you trust me, the more you feel comfortable about opening up, the more you open up, the more I can help you deal with your issues.
Maybe after our initial free consultation, you could ask yourself some of the below questions:
How do you feel when you talk with this person?
Do you feel heard, understood, validated, respected, and, yes, really cared for?
Do you get the sense their values align with yours?
Do you get the sense they have the necessary compassion, experience, and training to help with your particular issues?
Sharing your concerns with another human being who will carefully listen and respond with kindness, can be a true help to your heart, mind, and soul
I would love to hear from you and help you on the road to your recovery.
Jimi D Katsis Bristol-based consultant psychotherapist specialising in recovery from anxiety, depression, and, trauma