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Trauma Recovery: A Guide to Emotional Healing In the destructive path of trauma, navigating the storm of emotions that results can often feel like totally  overwhelming.  This blog is dedicated to those of us who are walking this challenging landscape every day, every moment. As a Psychotherapist with a personal history of overcoming huge adversity and challenge, I offer insights and strategies drawn from both professional expertise and my own journey of healing.  This blog d

In the nuanced dance of human relationships, words often become more than mere carriers of meaning. For those entangled in the complexities of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), words can transform into weapons, unwitting tools in a struggle deeply rooted in fear and pain. This isn't a tale of malice, but rather an exploration of how the tendrils of a troubled psyche can inadvertently turn language into a double-edged sword. Imagine walking through a mist-filled forest, w

Embark on a transformative journey of Emotional Self-Discovery, a narrative woven from the threads of understanding, healing, and self-discovery. As a psychotherapist with a focus on deep emotional insights, I invite you into a world where each step is a chapter in your personal story of growth. The Melody of Motivation : Like a hidden tune waiting to be discovered, understanding what drives you is a quest into your soul. It's about listening to the whispers of your heart, fi

As you embark on the journey of rediscovering your authentic self after enduring childhood trauma, imagine traversing a serene, yet complex forest. This forest symbolizes the intricate, sometimes challenging, path of healing and self-discovery. Each turn in the forest mirrors the twists and turns of your journey, leading you towards a place of self-realization and light. Echoes of a Troubled Past Consider the story of a person who likened their childhood trauma to carrying an

In the intricate dance of life, where each step and misstep tells a story, the early rhythms set in childhood echo long into the corridors of adulthood. Picture a child, whose youthful world was painted in the unpredictable shades of a parent's moods, where sharp words often hung heavy in the air like a lingering fog. This story isn't about the scars seen by the eye, but about those that etch themselves into the soul, unseen yet deeply felt. As they step out into the grand st

Engaging with long or complex messages can indeed test the limits of one's concentration, akin to navigating a maze rich with detail and scale. Mindfulness training is your compass in this metaphorical labyrinth. Let’s break down how to stay focused and engaged, keeping your bearings sharp and your attention anchored. First and foremost, it’s vital to understand the lay of the land. When faced with a complex message, recognise the inherent structure – the beginning, the middl

I wanted to touch on a subject that resonates with many - (including me) Avoidance . We all have instances when we just want to retreat and disconnect from the real world, but for some of us, this is an everyday ordeal. In this blog post, we'll examine some of the hurdles that being avoidant creates and provide some ideas to help manage and minimise how debilitating this can be. The Invisible Wall of Isolation Imagine feeling like you're behind a glass wall, watching life pas

Healing from emotional abuse is an arduous process, mainly because there are so many differing effects in so many areas – a million moving parts to account for. As hard as it is to de-code however, it is vital to address if you find yourself facing that unresolved trauma on a daily-basis – it can integrate into your habits, grow into your social patterns, and fundamentally shift the outlook you have on life. If you’re at the stage where you’re starting to question things: wo

We're diving into a concept that might sound like it came straight out of a Zen master's playbook but can actually be a game-changer in the real world: Radical Acceptance. It's not just about sitting cross-legged and chanting "om" until you find inner peace – it's about facing life's curveballs head-on, embracing the messiness, and coming out on the other side with your sanity (mostly) intact. So, grab your mental surfboard because we're about to ride the wave of radical acc

Neglect may be your care giver (a term used very ironically) entirely ignoring your existence, not even refusing to care for you, just simply failing to fulfil your needs without a second thought. For instance in my last few month living with my supposed care giver, I had to sneakily throw away or force myself to eat the rarely packed school lunches for months. Every element was past its best: mouldy bread, greying ham, and butter that tasted like no flavour I could ever desc

Job interviews can be nerve-wracking experiences, especially if you struggle with anxiety. The pressure to make a good impression, answer...

Living with anxiety can be challenging, especially when faced with triggers that exacerbate symptoms and heighten stress levels. Anxiety triggers vary from person to person, as each individual has unique experiences and sensitivities. In this blog post, we will explore common anxiety triggers and provide practical strategies to help you navigate and manage them effectively. Remember, overcoming anxiety is a journey, and with the right tools, you can regain control of your

Living with anxiety can make social interactions challenging. Whether it's attending social events, meeting new people, or simply engaging in conversations, anxiety can make these situations overwhelming. However, with the right coping strategies, it's possible to manage anxiety and find ways to navigate social interactions more comfortably. In this therapy blog, we will explore practical tips and techniques to help you cope with anxiety when mixing with others. Understand a

How to Stop Anxiety from Destroying Relationships There is lots of information out there about how anxiety impacts our health—mentally, emotionally, and physically. Anxiety can cause panic attacks, feelings of fear or feeling totally out of control and overwhelmed, and a general sense of unease and tension. It can take over your thoughts and cause problems in other areas of your life. But have you ever considered how anxiety can destroy relationships with those closest to yo

As the world starts to emerge from a pandemic it could seem like life is becoming more and more hectic. It feels as if we overload ourselves with more and more tasks to do, more and more things we have to accomplish. Do you ever go to bed, listing the things in your head that you couldn’t finish or accomplish during the day?“Where did the day go?” Enough of these days and I can ask myself the same questions about weeks, months, or even years! When these thoughts come up I tr

What do I mean by this? Well, you wouldn’t wait till your arm was dropping off before you went to the ER. The same should go for your mental health. Don’t wait till you are in the middle of a meltdown before you decide to seek professional help and look for a therapist. Psychotherapy is just like having a medical check-up it will help the illness from spreading or becoming life-threatening. By getting good therapy and creating a relationship with a therapist before everything

How many times has this happened to you? Your day starts out organised and well planned, for it to change completely by an event, or person that you hadn’t factored in, thus sending you into panic and stress? Or you have written out a schedule for yourself which in reality there just aren’t enough hours in the day for you to complete? Sound familiar? Most of us don’t have the time or take the time to evaluate which of our daily tasks is truly valuable to us and which we can d

Anxiety can raise its ugly head in many forms! It can be so bad that we need professional help to deal with the pain and trauma that can actually stop us from functioning properly. Anxiety is something that everybody experiences at one time or another, but it can be on many different levels. From being anxious about walking into a room of people to it being so debilitating than getting out of bed for fear of something happening to you can be your everyday battle. One powerfu

Let’s stop making mindfulness something that it isn’t. It’s not a magic button that you push in your mind and all your problems dissolve! It’s not the great cure-all! Mindfulness is something we all have within ourselves, it’s just whether we choose to use it. Simply put, mindfulness is a way of being aware of what’s going on around you and learning to not be judgemental of yourself, situations or people. It is the opposite of being distracted, yet you can be mindful of bein

Your week at work is incredibly busy, and we all know what that can feel like, it can lead to your stress level going through the roof! We may start the day with a list of tasks we need to do and end the day not having finished that list which can lead to worry anxiety and stress. Some research shows most people spend about 47% of their time thinking about something other than what is right in front of them. This amount of distraction can result in decreased focus and higher