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Are you spending more time on your device than with your partner? We all do it, sit starring at the screen in front of us, scrolling endlessly, not looking up for hours. We need to ask ourselves some questions, “ Am I spending more time with my electronic device than I am with my partner or spouse?” Or “Am I spending more time in the virtual world than the real one and is my relationship suffering because of it?” You won’t be alone if the answer is yes to these questions. A

When we believe in ourselves, It’s a good start to helping us achieve our goals and dreams and also helps towards our mental wellbeing. But there is a flip side to this, a lack of belief in ourselves means we are less likely to push ourselves to achieve our goals or to try and make things better for ourselves. If we expect we are going to fail at something we are actually more likely to do just that. What we need to try and realise is, that by believing in ourselves it will

Most of us want self-confidence because we want to feel good about ourselves. But self-confidence is also important for other things. The higher our self-confidence, the higher our motivation to act. Self-confidence is also a good thing as if we lack in it we are more likely to fail at the task we have set for ourselves. One of the most important aspects of self-confidence is self-worth. We are all worthy. Some of us however can feel worthless. Maybe we feel like we're dis

Today we are going to ask the question “Is it time for me to seek help, and see a therapist?” The chances are if you are asking yourself that question then the answer is “Yes”. Psychotherapy, talking therapy, counseling, it doesn’t matter what you call it, is there to help you when you are struggling with your mental health. Life throws us many challenges and curveballs and it takes a strong person to say “I can’t do this on my own!” Therapy can help improve symptoms of many

We have talked about how to use Mindfulness to help you be aware of others, now lets talk ab how it can help you, and some simple techniques you can use to help you become more aware of your feelings, emotions, and thoughts and how to deal with them if they become overwhelming or upsetting. Believe it or not, you can use mindfulness when you are eating. Try and pay more attention to taste, texture, flavours. When you are preparing your food, even if it's a sandwich, notice wh

It’s Monday morning, you are running late and it’s taking the kids forever to get ready and get into the car. In your hurry to leave you knock over a cup filled with coffee, and your little girl is asking you for money as they have a thing at school. Traffic is bumper too bumper and there is an argument going on in the back seat. Does this all sound only too familiar? Not a great way to start your day or your week and enough to put your stress levels through the roof. This

It can be easy to rush through life without paying attention to what is going on around us. If we took the time to pay more attention to the present moment – to our own thoughts and feelings, and to the world around us, it can improve our mental health. We call this self-awareness “ mindfulness “. It can help us enjoy life and have a better understanding of ourselves. So what is mindfulness? It means knowing what is going on both inside and outside ourselves moment by momen

Has your child had an experience that was either emotionally or physically traumatic? Is this still causing them stress, anxiety, and worrying you enough to seek help. Maybe you have decided to approach a therapist and ask for help, but what can they do that you can’t. Your child may need a form of therapy called Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. This sounds like a real mouthful right? But don’t worry it’s a very useful tool in dealing with certain types of trauma

As we get older we all seem to get more forgetful. Walking into a room and not remembering why you went there in the first place, or...

First of all, what is a panic attack? It’s an overwhelming feeling of anxiety that comes out of nowhere, with no warning, and quite often for no reason. It feels like a wave taking over your body and can cause some or all of the symptoms we will talk about in a minute. It can be very frightening and unpleasant and can cause some pretty scary effects to your body, even feeling like you are going to die or suffocate! So what are some of the symptoms of a panic attack? Your hear

You wake up in the morning, brush your teeth and look in the mirror. What do you see? Do you like what you see? Or do you spend the next five minutes poking, prodding, and criticising what is looking back at you? Some of us are our own worst critics, we are overly tough on ourselves to the point where it can affect our mood, energy level, and ability to function normally. Self-criticism can bring “yes, but” into our lives which can be a very negative thought process. For inst

Trauma and Anger Thankfully there has been a lot more research and general awareness about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in recent years. The once stereotyped image of a shaking war-veteran has been adjusted and broadened to people who suffer from generally suffer from stress related to traumatic experiences from the past. We can experience a whole range of different emotions after undergoing something traumatic – which is completely understandable. Sometimes those feelings

Prenatal Anxiety Thinking back to my days when I was pregnant, I remember being struck by the reams of information readily available about postnatal depression and anxiety. I vividly recall how well it had been stamped across the NHS clinic hallways when I used to go for my pregnancy check-ups. The posters usually followed the similar motifs of black and white dramatic photographs; featuring a silhouette of a woman staring vacantly through a rain-washed window. The ‘warning

Covid and Social Anxiety For those of us who suffer from acute social anxiety, the rules inflicted on us during the initial lockdown from...

Depression and Fitness One of the main aspects to depression that we struggle with is its inability to allow us to deal with our feelings – I am sure I am not alone in having heard others lecture, “think about what is making you depressed and change it” – a well-intentioned but frankly laughable concept. As if a magic wand has now been curtly swished and Cinderella has now been instantaneously transformed from her rags to a sparkly blue ball gown. No, what I am talking about

The Power of Self Awareness: Mindfulness Taking the time to consider how we care for ourselves when we are at our lowest and most...

It doesn’t take too long after scrolling your way through Instagram to find a smug and characteristically vacuous quote about forgiveness. Usually, it will be thoughtfully stamped (using either Comic Sans or Edwardian Script, for an artistic flair, of course) across an archetypical dreamy background of some mysterious and edited mountain range. Ah… here we go… recognise this? Behold, a quintessential piece of 21st century passive toxicity. However, we cannot hold social medi